I have noticed that my mom friends sort of disappear for a while when they have their second child. I am very familiar with how that could happen. I had so much time when Ethan was a baby. I was sleep deprived, but had lots of time on my hands. I could clean things, take showers, even eat food- all when he was asleep and I had some free time and hands.
Now, there are 2 schedules to balance. Baby schedule and preschooler schedule. Ethan does not have the politeness to let Emma sleep when she needs to. Last week in the car, we were driving home from visiting Redskins Training Camp. Emma so sweetly fell asleep in her carseat on the way home. I told Ethan not to scream because he might wake sister up and we wanted her to sleep and not cry. 10 minutes later he starts screaming, "Wake up Emma! Eyes open! That's funny!" at the top of his lungs. Needless to say. she woke up. When she cries in the car he says, "Emma. Stop. That hurts. That's too loud. It's ok. You don't need to cry.". They wake each other up constantly. I have never spent so much time trying to get children to go to sleep. It's part of the territory with two small kids.
There is really only once a day when they are both asleep at the same time. I like to take that opportunity to sleep myself.
There is really only one time a day when they are both awake and ready to go do something together. I like to take that hour or hour and a half to spend some time with both of them outside our house.
I know that eventually they will both either sleep at the same time or not sleep during the day at all and it will all be easier. Everyone will be potty trained. Everyone will be able to understand basic things ( like the books that we just checked out do not immediately go into the return slot at the library) and not have meltdowns because of them.
I will sleep again. I will eventually get to sleep in.
That is why we disappear, because we are just trying to make it.
Here are some things that have happened recently that I may not get around to blogging about.:
Ethan can ride a scooter now.
Emma is sitting up for a few seconds and then loses balance and falls over.
Emma is trying to crawl and can push herself up on 3 appendages.
Ethan is obsessed with PBS kids and learned how to sing the "ABC song".
Ethan got impetigo.
Ethan got his first pet fish. It's a red fish that he named "Blue".
Jason and I have begun seriously discussing adoption.
Having 2 kids is not all sleepless nights and crying. There is so much love. Emma spends a lot of time staring and laughing at her brother. Ethan wants to be where Emma is. He wants her to play with him, sleep with him, bathe with him. He loves that he has a sister. It is so sweet to see them interacting more and more each day. To see them loving each other each day. It makes all the craziness seem worth it.